In my view the mentor must have an appreciation of the rainbow of human values that exist out there and the fact that good communication must relate on an open minded basis to that phenomena.
Most of us who have mentored for years appreciate the fact that the mentored individual will do the job reflecting his or her own values, attributes and outlook. Success will be achieved by them, not us. We are only there as guides. The ideal mentee makes the journey interesting for us as well. If they have a thought on performing the job in a different way than the mentor identifies they show some initiative by developing the approach and asking the mentor to comment.
My major concern in mentoring is locating the right match where I have the opportunity to make the best contribution and the highest potential outcome for success. I pick clients and make offers on Micro Mentor. Others contact me and if I feel the match is not a good one, I refer them to a Micro Mentor I believe can help.